04-24-2016, 12:00 AM
watergaze, please read the open letter to YOU. It is in welcome to your new home (stalker's playground). Thank you! I need you to see this, as it bears repeating anyway...
it addresses: the issue of integrity in private communications, and also of stalking in the stalker's playground. Agreements of confidentiality should be honored in personal exchanges. Period. Sometimes, personal exchanges (even without agreement of confidentiality) bear the obligation of privacy even if only implicitly. The latter etiquette is subject to context, and I won't elaborate details there. On behalf of my own trustworthiness, I exchanged well over a hundred PMs with someone on the site a year ago to share a practice, and have never spoken one word contained therein. If I agree to confidentiality, I am reliable!
I have a strongly stated position on the stalker's playground: Briefly, a stalker properly enters that space with an agenda of intent and purpose in a mutual interchange with the one stalked. By virtue of the stalker's unique position, that person SHOULD obtain to ruling that uniquely designated space.
I am not advocating concession by the stalkee, or prohibition of others entering and exerting adverse power. I am saying it is the right position of the stalker to powerfully command her/his intent, and do practically all that is possible to fulfill their purpose. That person, need focus on THAT alone, and is charged to dimiss all else that would come between the desired result.
If she/he is powerful enough in intent, then he/she will have success regardless of other persons. In this vein, whether an outsider is made to feel welcome or not, is the prerogative of the stalker. The stalkee may oppose, but typically adjoins the position of the stalker because of the power dynamics, or leaves the play area set by the stalker. For those that may not understand, each position is essentially stalking themselves for knowledge while assisting the other to do the same. It is a beautiful thing. Really, it is!
ADD: I want to assure you despite my rhetoric, that my profoundly strong intent is one that will prevail and bring goodness.
it addresses: the issue of integrity in private communications, and also of stalking in the stalker's playground. Agreements of confidentiality should be honored in personal exchanges. Period. Sometimes, personal exchanges (even without agreement of confidentiality) bear the obligation of privacy even if only implicitly. The latter etiquette is subject to context, and I won't elaborate details there. On behalf of my own trustworthiness, I exchanged well over a hundred PMs with someone on the site a year ago to share a practice, and have never spoken one word contained therein. If I agree to confidentiality, I am reliable!
I have a strongly stated position on the stalker's playground: Briefly, a stalker properly enters that space with an agenda of intent and purpose in a mutual interchange with the one stalked. By virtue of the stalker's unique position, that person SHOULD obtain to ruling that uniquely designated space.
I am not advocating concession by the stalkee, or prohibition of others entering and exerting adverse power. I am saying it is the right position of the stalker to powerfully command her/his intent, and do practically all that is possible to fulfill their purpose. That person, need focus on THAT alone, and is charged to dimiss all else that would come between the desired result.
If she/he is powerful enough in intent, then he/she will have success regardless of other persons. In this vein, whether an outsider is made to feel welcome or not, is the prerogative of the stalker. The stalkee may oppose, but typically adjoins the position of the stalker because of the power dynamics, or leaves the play area set by the stalker. For those that may not understand, each position is essentially stalking themselves for knowledge while assisting the other to do the same. It is a beautiful thing. Really, it is!
ADD: I want to assure you despite my rhetoric, that my profoundly strong intent is one that will prevail and bring goodness.