12-16-2018, 12:00 AM
funnyguy wrote:Not-doing saves energy for sure not so much though if what you're doing instead is more energy consuming. We're always doing something...
yes, and I was wondering whether a person who didn't judge as default (which is ofc hard to find in our society) would find that judging gave them energy - since for them it would be a not-doing (of not judging hehe). It is hard to imagine to be honest, but it should work that way... given how not-doings are supposed to work.
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funnyguy wrote:Avoiding drama and entanglements is easy enough as long as you're detached it wouldn't matter if you judge or not, all you need is space.
Of course this statement is true
. The problem or magic lol is that getting somewhere is an individual path but also that there are different facets and angles to things. So say I can avoid drama and entanglements to quite a big extent (thanks to an aversion to drama I've had since forever), but sometimes I decide to go into something that I know might have drama and entanglements (sometimes I'm pretty much sure of that and still decide to go into a situation that has that potential). I also know that it is hard for me to detach once I'm in the deep water lol... so I know this going into the situation that I might come to a point when I wont be able to detach easily - meaning it will take a certain time and a certain toll. The 3rd thing is that I found that detaching is not a good thing sometimes. That it makes me not act from the best layer (that I don't see all that I should). Even if I might want to avoid it, sometimes I have to immerse myself more to find the best solution to a situation. Only after can I detach (and there again I'm not as fast as I'd like). The not-judging gives me another tool in my arsenal how to help myself. I can still have empathy to a degree when in non-judgment more for example, whereas with detaching I found often that I lack empathy. But the more aware I am of this the better I am getting at combining stuff.
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funnyguy wrote
on't forget even though you may stop judging that doesn't mean some of your judgements haven't stuck around...
lol yes. While I was practicing non-judgement on something I noticed that I judged some people (which was not the thing I was focusing on) because they didn't get it and were not able to shift like me (and were in a lot of emotional upheaval while I was not). The way this manifested was that I did not have empathy with those people (I was too detached - so, yea, sometimes detachment stinks) Just because we don't judge one thing where we direct our attention doesn't mean we don't have a gazillion other judgments going on at the same time). Otherwise we'd stop the world. (the landmark situation I talked about some posts before led to me stopping the world - at least partially).
yes, and I was wondering whether a person who didn't judge as default (which is ofc hard to find in our society) would find that judging gave them energy - since for them it would be a not-doing (of not judging hehe). It is hard to imagine to be honest, but it should work that way... given how not-doings are supposed to work.
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funnyguy wrote:Avoiding drama and entanglements is easy enough as long as you're detached it wouldn't matter if you judge or not, all you need is space.
Of course this statement is true
. The problem or magic lol is that getting somewhere is an individual path but also that there are different facets and angles to things. So say I can avoid drama and entanglements to quite a big extent (thanks to an aversion to drama I've had since forever), but sometimes I decide to go into something that I know might have drama and entanglements (sometimes I'm pretty much sure of that and still decide to go into a situation that has that potential). I also know that it is hard for me to detach once I'm in the deep water lol... so I know this going into the situation that I might come to a point when I wont be able to detach easily - meaning it will take a certain time and a certain toll. The 3rd thing is that I found that detaching is not a good thing sometimes. That it makes me not act from the best layer (that I don't see all that I should). Even if I might want to avoid it, sometimes I have to immerse myself more to find the best solution to a situation. Only after can I detach (and there again I'm not as fast as I'd like). The not-judging gives me another tool in my arsenal how to help myself. I can still have empathy to a degree when in non-judgment more for example, whereas with detaching I found often that I lack empathy. But the more aware I am of this the better I am getting at combining stuff..
funnyguy wrote
on't forget even though you may stop judging that doesn't mean some of your judgements haven't stuck around...lol yes. While I was practicing non-judgement on something I noticed that I judged some people (which was not the thing I was focusing on) because they didn't get it and were not able to shift like me (and were in a lot of emotional upheaval while I was not). The way this manifested was that I did not have empathy with those people (I was too detached - so, yea, sometimes detachment stinks) Just because we don't judge one thing where we direct our attention doesn't mean we don't have a gazillion other judgments going on at the same time). Otherwise we'd stop the world
. (the landmark situation I talked about some posts before led to me stopping the world - at least partially).