04-18-2016, 12:01 AM
The Dominant is the leader in a D/s relationship. The best leaders serve those whom they lead. The Dominant should serve his submissive. Yes, this may seem like a paradox. But a Dominant should remember that the goal of the D/s relationship is not the D/s. The D/s is the means, not the end. The goal is that both the Dominant and submissive grow and become better and hopefully happier human beings.
The job of the Dominant is not to control the submissive for the sake of controlling the submissive. The job of the Dominant is to provide the structure that helps the submissive grow in grace and strength and peace. By this does the Dominant serve his submissive. By this does the Dominant respect his submissive.
And that reason a healthy D/s relationship is an equal relationship. It may seem strange to think of a D/s relationship being an equal relationship. One person is leader and the other follows. But each person serves the other. Both meet the needs of the other. Both respect the other for who he or she is. That is what an equal relationship should be.
So that is how a Dominant should treat his submissive. Treat her as an equal. Treat her with respect. Treat her as a submissive.
Do not end up being a brat, Kaomea. Just in case, you are not aware, our playground is now appropriately enough in Stalkers' Playground section of ART OF STALKING. Affectionately, it is titled Welcome to your new home. Do you want me to be de-motivated after investing all of the great work you did? You diligently groomed me to become a perfect switch, and to stalk you relentlessly as I am doing. Relinquish your fears. I will adhere to the spirit of what was quoted from the liberating source above. My intentions are purely good. How many others in a million lifetimes will get the auspicious opportunity you have. Take as much time as you need.. months even, but don't blow it.
The job of the Dominant is not to control the submissive for the sake of controlling the submissive. The job of the Dominant is to provide the structure that helps the submissive grow in grace and strength and peace. By this does the Dominant serve his submissive. By this does the Dominant respect his submissive.
And that reason a healthy D/s relationship is an equal relationship. It may seem strange to think of a D/s relationship being an equal relationship. One person is leader and the other follows. But each person serves the other. Both meet the needs of the other. Both respect the other for who he or she is. That is what an equal relationship should be.
So that is how a Dominant should treat his submissive. Treat her as an equal. Treat her with respect. Treat her as a submissive.
Do not end up being a brat, Kaomea. Just in case, you are not aware, our playground is now appropriately enough in Stalkers' Playground section of ART OF STALKING. Affectionately, it is titled Welcome to your new home. Do you want me to be de-motivated after investing all of the great work you did? You diligently groomed me to become a perfect switch, and to stalk you relentlessly as I am doing. Relinquish your fears. I will adhere to the spirit of what was quoted from the liberating source above. My intentions are purely good. How many others in a million lifetimes will get the auspicious opportunity you have. Take as much time as you need.. months even, but don't blow it.