01-10-2015, 12:09 AM
serloco wrote:...learning...one does not feel when one sees, and when one sees they do not think of sex...and yet I SAW that I could feel and choose and control how i feel...yes I see and feel together now after* i learned... Note highlight I added*
I rebelled at your take on my daughter situation because you misunderstood, By click/space, I meant I can stop activity or thought most anytime, remind self by flicking that switch to SEE only my sense of awareness matters. I take it seriously (laughing) that nothing matters.
A great help has been when my wife asks for something I learned to stop instantaneously to be subserviant (lol & great undertone as I want a sense of worshipping my wife--you must realize the beauty and fun of all those nuances when you can forget the pretending and make that authentic.) Making love, I have been telling her how I want her to *** another man because I am not good enough for her. I SEE she does *** another man in her mind too. Then too, I can have her be daddy's (my) little girl. But, as I caught, I was losing love for lust > I SEE I can have both just like you talked about here>
need perfected art of love first and then the lust will be much much better. It WILL bring power to pain & manipulation of pleasure. It is hard though, because I'm stuck on mutual surrender.
I could exquisitely 'hurt' my wife later if I showed some self control. That I am doing anything at all with a 'control freak person' at this point is leaps and bounds away from past dynamics. I mean you understand human nature else you wouldn't do what you do.
I rebelled at your take on my daughter situation because you misunderstood, By click/space, I meant I can stop activity or thought most anytime, remind self by flicking that switch to SEE only my sense of awareness matters. I take it seriously (laughing) that nothing matters.
A great help has been when my wife asks for something I learned to stop instantaneously to be subserviant (lol & great undertone as I want a sense of worshipping my wife--you must realize the beauty and fun of all those nuances when you can forget the pretending and make that authentic.) Making love, I have been telling her how I want her to *** another man because I am not good enough for her. I SEE she does *** another man in her mind too. Then too, I can have her be daddy's (my) little girl. But, as I caught, I was losing love for lust > I SEE I can have both just like you talked about here>
need perfected art of love first and then the lust will be much much better. It WILL bring power to pain & manipulation of pleasure. It is hard though, because I'm stuck on mutual surrender.
I could exquisitely 'hurt' my wife later if I showed some self control. That I am doing anything at all with a 'control freak person' at this point is leaps and bounds away from past dynamics. I mean you understand human nature else you wouldn't do what you do.