04-08-2014, 12:00 AM
Aderfast wrote: For many years, I carried with me a strong fear of looking at people in the eye. But today, after two years steady work on the Path and intending to overcome that obstacle, I at last talked to someone and looked into their eyes. The induced fears of the past, if just for that conversation, fell away. I am sure the battle is not over, but a trickle will grow.
Aderfast
looking in the eyes is a key - it locks, and it opens.
for you it's what i call "a point of change". looking strait into eyes might change your fear into euphoria!
to teach you this technique properly i need to be facing you - but let me write down some description. as long as we're apart and far away:
LOOKING STRAIT INTO EYES - BREAKING THE FEAR
you need a partner - someone whom you love mutually - a mate, a family member or a friend.
sit, the two of you, crossed-legged on the floor facing each other.
tap simultaneously a simple long rythm each on both his thighs - this is what i need to be present in order to teach properly - something like
1-2-3-4-5-6-7-
1-2-3-4-5-6- (pouse )
or
1-2-3-4-5-6-7-
1-2-3-4-5- (pouse-2)
establish that, (you can build a more complex rythm on this basis if you like ) then add the head rotation of recap. both doing left-write or right-left - thus sitting oposed, it's oposite directions. meaning - you start oposite, cross in the middle, go oposite.
1-2-3-4-5-6-7-
[head moves s left\right-right\left]
1-2-3-4-5- (pouse-2)
[head moves right\left- left\right-]
now you divide your rhythm, so few hits of the basic beat you tap (rather hit, with some force) on the other's thigh, next to you, and vice-versa. + heads rotating.
to culminate into: when rotating heads are crossed in the middle, the strait-ahead point, you both briefly, for split second, looking in each other eyes, while one omits a cry - a shout - and the other echoes it a split second later.
use deep belly voice - not guttural. careful - a false voice might reverse the effect.
this is why i hate to do it online...
could any other arrangement be practical?
good luck.
i'll be here and there (end there) if you need me further.
[forgot my hug]
(edited due to over-highlighting, plus merged hugs into the same post)
http://sorcery.yuku.com/reply/108867/Ad ... ply-108867
Aderfast
looking in the eyes is a key - it locks, and it opens.
for you it's what i call "a point of change". looking strait into eyes might change your fear into euphoria!
to teach you this technique properly i need to be facing you - but let me write down some description. as long as we're apart and far away:
LOOKING STRAIT INTO EYES - BREAKING THE FEAR
you need a partner - someone whom you love mutually - a mate, a family member or a friend.
sit, the two of you, crossed-legged on the floor facing each other.
tap simultaneously a simple long rythm each on both his thighs - this is what i need to be present in order to teach properly - something like
1-2-3-4-5-6-7-
1-2-3-4-5-6- (pouse )
or
1-2-3-4-5-6-7-
1-2-3-4-5- (pouse-2)
establish that, (you can build a more complex rythm on this basis if you like ) then add the head rotation of recap. both doing left-write or right-left - thus sitting oposed, it's oposite directions. meaning - you start oposite, cross in the middle, go oposite.
1-2-3-4-5-6-7-
[head moves s left\right-right\left]
1-2-3-4-5- (pouse-2)
[head moves right\left- left\right-]
now you divide your rhythm, so few hits of the basic beat you tap (rather hit, with some force) on the other's thigh, next to you, and vice-versa. + heads rotating.
to culminate into: when rotating heads are crossed in the middle, the strait-ahead point, you both briefly, for split second, looking in each other eyes, while one omits a cry - a shout - and the other echoes it a split second later.
use deep belly voice - not guttural. careful - a false voice might reverse the effect.
this is why i hate to do it online...
could any other arrangement be practical?
good luck.
i'll be here and there (end there) if you need me further.
[forgot my hug]
(edited due to over-highlighting, plus merged hugs into the same post)
http://sorcery.yuku.com/reply/108867/Ad ... ply-108867