07-29-2018, 12:00 AM
What is needed is conscious decisions. Every decision and action has an outcome different than the other and it depends on the variables. You must be aware that when you make a decision be it consciously or not a particular outcome will follow so there's no leeway to justify blaming the variables and circumstances because your decisions have led you to where you already are and your decisions are leading you towards where you're going.
If you go on autopilot you'll miss out on many potential choices which can make you feel or lead you to a very different way/place. You don't have to waste time sulking on why you're where you are or why you're feeling a certain way due to a variable (circumstance). Instead take your attention away from the trigger which may be any variable (sound, person, place, situation) and bring it back inward to yourself feel your body and environment, pause.
Do this often and you'll gain more and more awareness of your triggers it will be much easier for you to notice them whilst occurring and in time you'll be able to predict and even deflect their occurrence. In time they'll loose their power and you'll remain with more clarity and guess where all that power will go...
After you've noticed the trigger of your turmoil and paused you'll know what it is and why it happened, you'll see that it puts you in turmoil because you give your attention to it and you'll have the open space to make a decision. That's very critical because you already are aware of the fact that your choice will have a consequence so you know that once you make your decision you have committed, there is no turning back. After you do that you stand up and act.
All this in the beginning for me was happening once a day, twice a day, however, with time you start noticing how this whole process happens moment to moment with every breath you take, every blink, and any movement of your body or mind. You set your intent to regain control over yourself and have an unwavering choice and little by little you take steps by training your attention and concentration and you become more and more aware.
If you go on autopilot you'll miss out on many potential choices which can make you feel or lead you to a very different way/place. You don't have to waste time sulking on why you're where you are or why you're feeling a certain way due to a variable (circumstance). Instead take your attention away from the trigger which may be any variable (sound, person, place, situation) and bring it back inward to yourself feel your body and environment, pause.
Do this often and you'll gain more and more awareness of your triggers it will be much easier for you to notice them whilst occurring and in time you'll be able to predict and even deflect their occurrence. In time they'll loose their power and you'll remain with more clarity and guess where all that power will go...
After you've noticed the trigger of your turmoil and paused you'll know what it is and why it happened, you'll see that it puts you in turmoil because you give your attention to it and you'll have the open space to make a decision. That's very critical because you already are aware of the fact that your choice will have a consequence so you know that once you make your decision you have committed, there is no turning back. After you do that you stand up and act.
All this in the beginning for me was happening once a day, twice a day, however, with time you start noticing how this whole process happens moment to moment with every breath you take, every blink, and any movement of your body or mind. You set your intent to regain control over yourself and have an unwavering choice and little by little you take steps by training your attention and concentration and you become more and more aware.