08-28-2010, 12:00 AM
rosy, in your anger or whatever it was, you miss my point.
Any trauma can be overcome, healed when viewed in light of universal design. So people who have suffered in how they processed their expereinces can end that suffering when they realize they were not victims, and instead harness the positives of what occurred afterward. The perception of being a victim is a very unpleasant one. Torcherous one. So to relinquish it is a relief to say the least. We cannot stop what has already occurred, but we can look at it from a new angle that does not endorse victimization, or the revenge that almost surely follows. The reason my friend became abusive (and was arrested) is because victims usually seek revenge and so the cycle of abuse continues until identity of the victim and victimizer can be dropped.
Whatever you are going on about in the future and implications of etc is your opinion, not mine.
Any trauma can be overcome, healed when viewed in light of universal design. So people who have suffered in how they processed their expereinces can end that suffering when they realize they were not victims, and instead harness the positives of what occurred afterward. The perception of being a victim is a very unpleasant one. Torcherous one. So to relinquish it is a relief to say the least. We cannot stop what has already occurred, but we can look at it from a new angle that does not endorse victimization, or the revenge that almost surely follows. The reason my friend became abusive (and was arrested) is because victims usually seek revenge and so the cycle of abuse continues until identity of the victim and victimizer can be dropped.
Whatever you are going on about in the future and implications of etc is your opinion, not mine.