12-15-2014, 12:00 AM
I've come to realize something over the last few months.
I have a very excellent petty tyrant in my life. This woman is in the family, mentally ill, and recently arrived on the scene to cause a great deal of loud chaos.
This woman is relentless, attention hungry, daring, manipulative, angry, and sets such outlandish goals she doesn't give a damn what anyone says or thinks. The more resistance to her there is, the more relentless she becomes.
SOO I realized that the only way to deal with this, was to get 'outside of myself' and deal with this person as a petty tyrant. So I let myself slip into a state of daring and fearlessness that I discovered when I was 18 after a wild experience and sickness...brought this back to a degree.
To deal with someone who is socially fearless (but slightly touched) I have to be socailly fearless as well...this is what stalking is all about.
This takes work though. It is all about getting beyond social fears...I will go down the list of the more common examples of this.
-Speaking or performing in front of huge crowds
-Confrontation
-Approaching the attractive due to fear of rejection
-Approaching people in general
-Going for a job you dont believe you are qualified for
-Pitching a gutsy business proposal to a backer
-Standing up for yourself against assholes who usually get their way
-Showing some skin or being nude in general
-Being noticed
-Doing something that is a quality of the opposite sex (like wearing a skirt and lipstick for guys)
OF course - all of this stuff has to be done with your best effort and skill. There is a purpose behind it - to shift your idea of your world. And of course you will fail from time to time. The idea is to intentionally put yourself in a situation that is socially awkward or scarey, and work through it. Do this actively and often.
In the end you get over the fear, and it becomes very fun and empowering.
I have a very excellent petty tyrant in my life. This woman is in the family, mentally ill, and recently arrived on the scene to cause a great deal of loud chaos.
This woman is relentless, attention hungry, daring, manipulative, angry, and sets such outlandish goals she doesn't give a damn what anyone says or thinks. The more resistance to her there is, the more relentless she becomes.
SOO I realized that the only way to deal with this, was to get 'outside of myself' and deal with this person as a petty tyrant. So I let myself slip into a state of daring and fearlessness that I discovered when I was 18 after a wild experience and sickness...brought this back to a degree.
To deal with someone who is socially fearless (but slightly touched) I have to be socailly fearless as well...this is what stalking is all about.
This takes work though. It is all about getting beyond social fears...I will go down the list of the more common examples of this.
-Speaking or performing in front of huge crowds
-Confrontation
-Approaching the attractive due to fear of rejection
-Approaching people in general
-Going for a job you dont believe you are qualified for
-Pitching a gutsy business proposal to a backer
-Standing up for yourself against assholes who usually get their way
-Showing some skin or being nude in general
-Being noticed
-Doing something that is a quality of the opposite sex (like wearing a skirt and lipstick for guys)
OF course - all of this stuff has to be done with your best effort and skill. There is a purpose behind it - to shift your idea of your world. And of course you will fail from time to time. The idea is to intentionally put yourself in a situation that is socially awkward or scarey, and work through it. Do this actively and often.
In the end you get over the fear, and it becomes very fun and empowering.