01-05-2015, 12:00 AM
Thats what no Fap means lol
However, I feel that the ultimate goal is that you decide for yourself what you want to do with your sexual energy instead of letting old habits or addictions decide for you. That probably means for most people to cut out masturbation for the most part, and not habitually watching porn either.
Now I haven't had a sexual partner in some years - but for those who do, this would mean coming to some agreement with your partner to work with the energy instead of letting it dissipate. You could start by cutting out the 'bored fucks' in favor of something more dynamic and energetic.
All of this has to be done with detachment and not some kind of weird obsession or self-abuse, like the christian concept of us being born out of sin and in filth - that sex is a filthy thing to be purged...no. I think I came cross that barrier as a young adult, catholic upbringing and all, sexuality was a shameful and weakling thing to even think about, so I used to obsess about suppressing it. It cannot be suppressed. Sexual energy can be made to move though, to trans-mutate. Almost everyone is sexual and sensual, you just either use the energy or let some habit take control of it.
Umm mind if I ask...after orgasm is there a big drain for women as there is for men? My experience with women is not extensive lol. I suppose I could just go ask one of my friends. I know that for me as a man I am energetically 'off' for almost a day in most cases after an ejaculation. Depends on the day, time of year, what I eat/drink etc. I know not everyone is the same in this respect.
Sexuality is a very fluid thing. The old saying is that 'attraction is not a choice', it isn't. People are turned on by very outlandish things in some cases, almost all sexual labels are societies attempts to 'pin down' sexual energy into something to be understood in a more concrete way. You are expected, coerced even, to behave within that label. Sex is fluid though. Women have less of a problem getting trapped in these labels than men do, unless they are imposed on them quite often by men, which is true more often than not sadly.
However, I feel that the ultimate goal is that you decide for yourself what you want to do with your sexual energy instead of letting old habits or addictions decide for you. That probably means for most people to cut out masturbation for the most part, and not habitually watching porn either.
Now I haven't had a sexual partner in some years - but for those who do, this would mean coming to some agreement with your partner to work with the energy instead of letting it dissipate. You could start by cutting out the 'bored fucks' in favor of something more dynamic and energetic.
All of this has to be done with detachment and not some kind of weird obsession or self-abuse, like the christian concept of us being born out of sin and in filth - that sex is a filthy thing to be purged...no. I think I came cross that barrier as a young adult, catholic upbringing and all, sexuality was a shameful and weakling thing to even think about, so I used to obsess about suppressing it. It cannot be suppressed. Sexual energy can be made to move though, to trans-mutate. Almost everyone is sexual and sensual, you just either use the energy or let some habit take control of it.
Umm mind if I ask...after orgasm is there a big drain for women as there is for men? My experience with women is not extensive lol. I suppose I could just go ask one of my friends. I know that for me as a man I am energetically 'off' for almost a day in most cases after an ejaculation. Depends on the day, time of year, what I eat/drink etc. I know not everyone is the same in this respect.
Sexuality is a very fluid thing. The old saying is that 'attraction is not a choice', it isn't. People are turned on by very outlandish things in some cases, almost all sexual labels are societies attempts to 'pin down' sexual energy into something to be understood in a more concrete way. You are expected, coerced even, to behave within that label. Sex is fluid though. Women have less of a problem getting trapped in these labels than men do, unless they are imposed on them quite often by men, which is true more often than not sadly.