03-22-2011, 12:01 AM
Sedna wrote:
What remains missing is real life examples. I get that when you are unsure you look to CC's words, but what seems missing is any application of those words to your actual life. I am beginning to wonder if anyone here actually practices any of this stuff or if it is mental practice alone?
I think several have given real life examples, including myself. Another stalking practice I occasionally engage in is when visiting The Mother-In-Law. In my "authentic self", I find this woman to be overbearing, manipulative and essentially about as annoying as a fly up one's nose. But when I stalk that awareness in myself as it relates to dealing with her, I go in with a smile, say what she wants to hear, and nod enthusiastically when she talks about her right-wing political views and insists that we really don't need a health care plan in the US because everyone should be able to pay for it as they go. Needless to say, I share none of her views, but as a stalker I have the absolute awareness that ANYTHING I say will only be used as an attempt to twist and manipulate... so I simply agree with timing, cunning, sweetness & forebearance. *shrugs* Nothing I can say will change her views, so the stalking exercise teaches me how to lose my own self-importance quickly & efficiently. It's not about stalking her - that would be altogether pointless - it's about stalking myself and my reactions to her.
I'm not sure what kind of examples you're looking for. Stalking is a subtle art in many ways, and something we do automatically once it becomes part of our being. It is a 24/7 prospect.
What remains missing is real life examples. I get that when you are unsure you look to CC's words, but what seems missing is any application of those words to your actual life. I am beginning to wonder if anyone here actually practices any of this stuff or if it is mental practice alone?
I think several have given real life examples, including myself. Another stalking practice I occasionally engage in is when visiting The Mother-In-Law. In my "authentic self", I find this woman to be overbearing, manipulative and essentially about as annoying as a fly up one's nose. But when I stalk that awareness in myself as it relates to dealing with her, I go in with a smile, say what she wants to hear, and nod enthusiastically when she talks about her right-wing political views and insists that we really don't need a health care plan in the US because everyone should be able to pay for it as they go. Needless to say, I share none of her views, but as a stalker I have the absolute awareness that ANYTHING I say will only be used as an attempt to twist and manipulate... so I simply agree with timing, cunning, sweetness & forebearance. *shrugs* Nothing I can say will change her views, so the stalking exercise teaches me how to lose my own self-importance quickly & efficiently. It's not about stalking her - that would be altogether pointless - it's about stalking myself and my reactions to her.
I'm not sure what kind of examples you're looking for. Stalking is a subtle art in many ways, and something we do automatically once it becomes part of our being. It is a 24/7 prospect.