01-01-2011, 12:00 AM
Turin Otzaki wrote:
wow, well said spud!!
but i laughed when I read "talking about fashion and the latest must have item or what a certain celebrity is doing" as I take great delight when I am at the hairdressers talking such ****, feigning an enthusiastic interest - I enjoy entering into their world for an hour. Its fun!
When i was practicing witchcraft i would have called it grounding
Take your point about Real Life, this connection with people here on the net can be addictive....but personally I have a huge amount of responsibility going on in RL running a business, bringing up a kid, looking after the dug, the washing, the dishes, the cooking, the shopping....and love my daily nature walks too. Talking of which, I need one of those right now!Think most of what you say would be classed as 'Drudge' or routine, as they have to be done, even a busy successful girl like you needs a playtime online and RL. They are of course all important but there is nothing wrong with a bit of 'Me' time, and yes i brought my children up solo, and as sailor i never really expected having to do that! so i do understand what you are saying. As i say bit if roundedness is key to good balance, and that time in the hairdressers, while conversation is not likely to be something intersting like dreaming is important because grounding keeps up focused and perspective.
Even as a single dad, used to still enjoy the normal things like a beer with the lads, a good curry and going all tribal at a football match. In between would spend hours online either playing games or reading various forums, or chatting to like minded people about spiritual matters in a chatroom.
Once made the mistake of doing too much of one thing and it dominatied, i got to like beer too much, or got addicted to a video game or a chat room, so i made the same mistake in different ways, both online and RL i got addicted, lost contact with both my kids and my spirituality and ultimately made some bad decisions regarding personal relationships.
If i had taken my own advice and everyhting in moderation then things may well be different today, and i wouldnt be struggling to find my spiritual path. (luckily my kids are far more tolerant )
You are a good soul and far wiser than i am sure you know your limits and boundaries, as i said a little bit of what you like is good, one thing dominating is bad. Thats my bitter experience anyway.
wow, well said spud!!
but i laughed when I read "talking about fashion and the latest must have item or what a certain celebrity is doing" as I take great delight when I am at the hairdressers talking such ****, feigning an enthusiastic interest - I enjoy entering into their world for an hour. Its fun!
When i was practicing witchcraft i would have called it grounding
Take your point about Real Life, this connection with people here on the net can be addictive....but personally I have a huge amount of responsibility going on in RL running a business, bringing up a kid, looking after the dug, the washing, the dishes, the cooking, the shopping....and love my daily nature walks too. Talking of which, I need one of those right now!Think most of what you say would be classed as 'Drudge' or routine, as they have to be done, even a busy successful girl like you needs a playtime online and RL. They are of course all important but there is nothing wrong with a bit of 'Me' time, and yes i brought my children up solo, and as sailor i never really expected having to do that! so i do understand what you are saying. As i say bit if roundedness is key to good balance, and that time in the hairdressers, while conversation is not likely to be something intersting like dreaming is important because grounding keeps up focused and perspective.
Even as a single dad, used to still enjoy the normal things like a beer with the lads, a good curry and going all tribal at a football match. In between would spend hours online either playing games or reading various forums, or chatting to like minded people about spiritual matters in a chatroom.
Once made the mistake of doing too much of one thing and it dominatied, i got to like beer too much, or got addicted to a video game or a chat room, so i made the same mistake in different ways, both online and RL i got addicted, lost contact with both my kids and my spirituality and ultimately made some bad decisions regarding personal relationships.
If i had taken my own advice and everyhting in moderation then things may well be different today, and i wouldnt be struggling to find my spiritual path. (luckily my kids are far more tolerant )
You are a good soul and far wiser than i am sure you know your limits and boundaries, as i said a little bit of what you like is good, one thing dominating is bad. Thats my bitter experience anyway.