11-14-2010, 12:00 AM
Women's traditional roles are the hearth maintainers. Within that hearth are all the male insecurities, they can be nurtured or coveted depending. I am reminded of LoneWolf's quote:
"Ah love I think can free you or enslave you....based on the woman (smile)."
To me, gender roles are what enslave us. Keeping up the status quo. What I am doing here is not nurturing that's for sure, but its not keeping up the status quo either. Its like mortar on an old building to me. You and snowblind came in and seemed to be saying "why blow up that old building?"
Strutt her stuff huh? Well, a woman can be allowed that. I'm not a big fat ego. I'm a little bitty ego . But I know what you are saying, people notice me...and guess what, I notice people too...how they respond to me tells me a lot about them. Some here I learn from, they are doing things I have not yet learned to do, and I'm grateful to learn from them. Others I learn from though they are doing things I don't want to do, I am grateful to them, and try to help them. At times these two criss cross so it can be the same person referred to in both cases.
Confrontational stances are sometimes worth being taken, they can be productive, though in the end its nurturing that heals. I am not missing out, I have many nurturing relationships and experience intimacy and sharing on a regular basis. Including here at this forum.
"I witnessed a most beautiful openness in a discussion yesterday on chat between Gonzo, Affinity and Self Healed Madman about some deeply personal matters, right into the most trusting confiding of their inner thoughts and feelings. Not an ego in sight. Just pure sharing and mutual learning. I have a sense that you maybe underestimate what you have found here."
Yes, I know these expereinces very well. First the stage must be set. Also what should be considered is what is being nurtured in the hearth. Is it ultimately freeing us?
My confronting is one aspect of our group dynamics here. One piece of the puzzle. I know my intent when I do it, so I do not feel I need to atone for anything. I have a warrior's mind through and through...but I do like everyone here and just want us all to be free, but I won't press for it.
"Ah love I think can free you or enslave you....based on the woman (smile)."
To me, gender roles are what enslave us. Keeping up the status quo. What I am doing here is not nurturing that's for sure, but its not keeping up the status quo either. Its like mortar on an old building to me. You and snowblind came in and seemed to be saying "why blow up that old building?"
Strutt her stuff huh? Well, a woman can be allowed that. I'm not a big fat ego. I'm a little bitty ego . But I know what you are saying, people notice me...and guess what, I notice people too...how they respond to me tells me a lot about them. Some here I learn from, they are doing things I have not yet learned to do, and I'm grateful to learn from them. Others I learn from though they are doing things I don't want to do, I am grateful to them, and try to help them. At times these two criss cross so it can be the same person referred to in both cases.
Confrontational stances are sometimes worth being taken, they can be productive, though in the end its nurturing that heals. I am not missing out, I have many nurturing relationships and experience intimacy and sharing on a regular basis. Including here at this forum.
"I witnessed a most beautiful openness in a discussion yesterday on chat between Gonzo, Affinity and Self Healed Madman about some deeply personal matters, right into the most trusting confiding of their inner thoughts and feelings. Not an ego in sight. Just pure sharing and mutual learning. I have a sense that you maybe underestimate what you have found here."
Yes, I know these expereinces very well. First the stage must be set. Also what should be considered is what is being nurtured in the hearth. Is it ultimately freeing us?
My confronting is one aspect of our group dynamics here. One piece of the puzzle. I know my intent when I do it, so I do not feel I need to atone for anything. I have a warrior's mind through and through...but I do like everyone here and just want us all to be free, but I won't press for it.