10-27-2010, 12:00 AM
A few things to add...
I've always enjoyed your honesty and inner searching brought into external scrutiny with the intent of good for all. Like you post with the intent that others are going through the same and a discussion will be of use.(my interp anyway)
The other thing is...criticism is not necessarily a bad thing. My art teacher used to have critique sessions, and this helped us produce better work. Not to mention provided us a source of humor.
So when does criticism become gossip? Some may say if its done behind the person's back its gossip, and if done to their face or where they can hear it, it criticism. Hmmmmm, lol. Not sure its that simple. Sometimes we talk something over with a trusted friend or friends before we take it directly to the person in question. Usually whats happening is people are trying to work situations out, find resolve to certain dynamics in relationships etc.
So, Turin, were you really doing something negative in all these situations or were you trying to balance situations in many instances? Ultimately balance (peace, resolve, etc) comes from within, but external reality is the catalyst for this, so... should you be being so hard on your approaches when it does appear you are in fact seeking unity even as you were being critical of others and then yourself?
Anyway, just observations. I'm not where I want to be either, but am enjoying the ride as I'm sure you are too : )
I've always enjoyed your honesty and inner searching brought into external scrutiny with the intent of good for all. Like you post with the intent that others are going through the same and a discussion will be of use.(my interp anyway)
The other thing is...criticism is not necessarily a bad thing. My art teacher used to have critique sessions, and this helped us produce better work. Not to mention provided us a source of humor.
So when does criticism become gossip? Some may say if its done behind the person's back its gossip, and if done to their face or where they can hear it, it criticism. Hmmmmm, lol. Not sure its that simple. Sometimes we talk something over with a trusted friend or friends before we take it directly to the person in question. Usually whats happening is people are trying to work situations out, find resolve to certain dynamics in relationships etc.
So, Turin, were you really doing something negative in all these situations or were you trying to balance situations in many instances? Ultimately balance (peace, resolve, etc) comes from within, but external reality is the catalyst for this, so... should you be being so hard on your approaches when it does appear you are in fact seeking unity even as you were being critical of others and then yourself?
Anyway, just observations. I'm not where I want to be either, but am enjoying the ride as I'm sure you are too : )