10-29-2010, 12:00 AM
And just imagine if you tried doing the opposite of loving negative emotions...think of if you tried to change them...you are essentially saying to this part of yourself "you are not adequate as you are, you need to improve, extract something first." So that's how negative separation feelings come about to begin with. The feeling of containing something bad that needs to be removed. My sister and I used to play a game as kids called old maid. The object was to not be stuck with the old maid card. We had to trade cards back and forth, and did this by picking from the other's hand without being able to see what card we were selecting. The person with the old maid card tried to off load it and the person without it tried not to pick it. The unwanted old maid, who's going to love her? Why us! Socialization tells us not to, but we can write our own story now.
We need to see negative feelings for the gems they are. They are not truly separation, but trying to cast them out is what merely causes the feeling of separation. And many doing this at once creates the social pressures and incentive to do this. So it can get a momentum this way. This is all good though once we realize we can rewire everything learned socially and make it all about unity again. We do this slowly though, not over night. A part of us likes duality, we like feeling separate in a positive sense. Such as, the only way to have a friend is to fragment into dual perceiving. In unity, non-duality, there is no "other". I know part of the reason I progress towards understanding non-duality at a slow rate is because I like hanging out in duality. If there was no pleasure in dual perceiving we may have never fragmented to begin with.
However, its the pain and suffering in dual experience that makes us long for completeness again. This is the value of negative emotions, cries for love are cries for completion. As Lonewolf said, "the path with heart can be heartbreaking too." We wander here lonely and forget we are eternity, something must wake us up to remember. I may never reach the goal, the most I can do is love as much as I can while here.
lol, that poor old maid. One time I got so mad at my sister because she could trick me to pick the old maid over and over, and then would laugh at me. One day I bent the old maid card so I'd recognize it in the future and then she was mad at me for ruining the game.
We need to see negative feelings for the gems they are. They are not truly separation, but trying to cast them out is what merely causes the feeling of separation. And many doing this at once creates the social pressures and incentive to do this. So it can get a momentum this way. This is all good though once we realize we can rewire everything learned socially and make it all about unity again. We do this slowly though, not over night. A part of us likes duality, we like feeling separate in a positive sense. Such as, the only way to have a friend is to fragment into dual perceiving. In unity, non-duality, there is no "other". I know part of the reason I progress towards understanding non-duality at a slow rate is because I like hanging out in duality. If there was no pleasure in dual perceiving we may have never fragmented to begin with.
However, its the pain and suffering in dual experience that makes us long for completeness again. This is the value of negative emotions, cries for love are cries for completion. As Lonewolf said, "the path with heart can be heartbreaking too." We wander here lonely and forget we are eternity, something must wake us up to remember. I may never reach the goal, the most I can do is love as much as I can while here.
lol, that poor old maid. One time I got so mad at my sister because she could trick me to pick the old maid over and over, and then would laugh at me. One day I bent the old maid card so I'd recognize it in the future and then she was mad at me for ruining the game.