03-06-2010, 12:00 AM
this topic is very interesting for me.....
one thing that has helped me to understand the idea of taking responsibility more is to realize that not making a decision is STILL a decision. i have found myself, in the past and even sometimes now, being lazy and disowning responsibility because i could always fall back on the idea that i didn't act or choose - so how could i possibly be held accountable? i thought at one point that i was strong for not taking sides - but when i examined my motives for not choosing, i saw that half of the time, it was due to fear. coming to the conclusion that even inaction and indecision is indeed a choice made that excuse flimsy and transparent. now, when i see myself heading in that direction, it's a whole different ball game. at least in the past, i might have been able to claim ignorance.... now when that happens, i try to make myself aware of why i am not deciding and affirm to myself that inaction or indecision is a choice that i am making in full awareness.
one thing that has helped me to understand the idea of taking responsibility more is to realize that not making a decision is STILL a decision. i have found myself, in the past and even sometimes now, being lazy and disowning responsibility because i could always fall back on the idea that i didn't act or choose - so how could i possibly be held accountable? i thought at one point that i was strong for not taking sides - but when i examined my motives for not choosing, i saw that half of the time, it was due to fear. coming to the conclusion that even inaction and indecision is indeed a choice made that excuse flimsy and transparent. now, when i see myself heading in that direction, it's a whole different ball game. at least in the past, i might have been able to claim ignorance.... now when that happens, i try to make myself aware of why i am not deciding and affirm to myself that inaction or indecision is a choice that i am making in full awareness.