04-30-2018, 12:00 AM
thnx for the inspiration Pixie 
change in itself is not painful...
But coming out of something bad and hurtful we are not whole and often times it is only after the bad experience, once we are out of it, that we can actually feel its consequences, that we have the 'luxury' to go into it (and ofc to start healing) - this is why it is not uncommon to have most pain after painful experiences. It is a different kind of pain than the pain experienced during the bad thing itself. This different kind of pain is more hm existential. One needs to come to terms with what happened and heal. The pain is a pointer and trigger for this to start happening.
change in itself is not painful...
But coming out of something bad and hurtful we are not whole and often times it is only after the bad experience, once we are out of it, that we can actually feel its consequences, that we have the 'luxury' to go into it (and ofc to start healing) - this is why it is not uncommon to have most pain after painful experiences. It is a different kind of pain than the pain experienced during the bad thing itself. This different kind of pain is more hm existential. One needs to come to terms with what happened and heal. The pain is a pointer and trigger for this to start happening.