02-01-2014, 12:00 AM
These are some of the techniques that came up since considering your question, Water gaze, I really appreciate your inquisitiveness! I had hoped exactly for this!!! For a Warrior to come along and force me to change my approach. I had not considered bringing this question in to the peak of my focus and I may now look at this whole issue further to see what else I can learn so i may devise a new strategy!!!!!!
Taking things at face value - Being Cunning- Taking responsibility - Stalking myself - Patience - Reserving judgment - .
On face value Natashca and jake are best friends, spending allot of time together, Jake has been diagnosed with a form of dyslexia also some speech and learning difficulties. Natascha is outwardly willing to listen to Jakes needs and feelings Jake also has absolutely no friends his own age he is 14.
The way I see it Jake, in many ways is a spoiled brat! At this point I stalk myself to find out that I often view other peoples children as being both severely mistreated emotionally and paradoxically lazy and spoiled. I use PATIENCE with Jake and Natascha because I know that there will be a proper time to express my views if power wishes it. It does not take long in this case for me to act as Jake really is spoiled as I thought! I knew when I offered to go to shop for Natascha what I was doing and I was not surprised when Jake volunteered to come with me, I found out that Jake is afraid to leave the house alone but walking with me to shops was a lesson in the value of helping his mother out and never did I mention anything about helping his mother, I know my actions speak for themselves as I am larking around on a mini adventure to the shop I am there because I have chosen to be and enjoy every moment of it!!!! (also I knew how good the food was going to be cooked something else I think Jake Takes for granted! being cooked delicious food everyday without having to life a finger) LOL)
Treat people as strangers
I treat Jake as a stranger because I do not want to know him as a the story of a 14 year old boy with learning difficulties. If you could have seen me at 14 and see me now I cannot myself believe the difference. He really does seem fine to me but I have to stalk myself impeccably because I am hooked on my belief that people doing the diagnosing of Jake are not reliable, I have little faith in this institution.
I am now going off topic I think so will leave this here for the time being.
Disrupting routines and being Inclusive
Luckily I have not known Natascha and Jake all that long, all they know about me is that i am very helpful, tidy, musical and perhaps a bit lost. 3 out of 4 is not too bad : )
Being Inclusive is working with the feelings in the moment. Being Inclusive is an approach to life and I am finding myself assessing my feelings not about Natashca and not about Jake but also their feelings about each other. During this process I have found out that i am always trying to please everyone simultaneously, you will see me in the chat room that I will try to reply to everything that anyone sais so that they do not feel ignored, this ends up with me seemingly taking over in some way killing the natural flow of conversation, watch out for that LOL!
I also beat myself up allot and think that there is something wrong with me. I believe these feelings will stem from childhood and need to be resolved if we want to actually have any real measure of respect for ourselves and like a great man once said, if we do not respect ourselves, if we do not love our selves, if we do not like ourselves, WHO WILL?
Taking things at face value - Being Cunning- Taking responsibility - Stalking myself - Patience - Reserving judgment - .
On face value Natashca and jake are best friends, spending allot of time together, Jake has been diagnosed with a form of dyslexia also some speech and learning difficulties. Natascha is outwardly willing to listen to Jakes needs and feelings Jake also has absolutely no friends his own age he is 14.
The way I see it Jake, in many ways is a spoiled brat! At this point I stalk myself to find out that I often view other peoples children as being both severely mistreated emotionally and paradoxically lazy and spoiled. I use PATIENCE with Jake and Natascha because I know that there will be a proper time to express my views if power wishes it. It does not take long in this case for me to act as Jake really is spoiled as I thought! I knew when I offered to go to shop for Natascha what I was doing and I was not surprised when Jake volunteered to come with me, I found out that Jake is afraid to leave the house alone but walking with me to shops was a lesson in the value of helping his mother out and never did I mention anything about helping his mother, I know my actions speak for themselves as I am larking around on a mini adventure to the shop I am there because I have chosen to be and enjoy every moment of it!!!! (also I knew how good the food was going to be cooked something else I think Jake Takes for granted! being cooked delicious food everyday without having to life a finger) LOL)
Treat people as strangers
I treat Jake as a stranger because I do not want to know him as a the story of a 14 year old boy with learning difficulties. If you could have seen me at 14 and see me now I cannot myself believe the difference. He really does seem fine to me but I have to stalk myself impeccably because I am hooked on my belief that people doing the diagnosing of Jake are not reliable, I have little faith in this institution.
I am now going off topic I think so will leave this here for the time being.
Disrupting routines and being Inclusive
Luckily I have not known Natascha and Jake all that long, all they know about me is that i am very helpful, tidy, musical and perhaps a bit lost. 3 out of 4 is not too bad : )
Being Inclusive is working with the feelings in the moment. Being Inclusive is an approach to life and I am finding myself assessing my feelings not about Natashca and not about Jake but also their feelings about each other. During this process I have found out that i am always trying to please everyone simultaneously, you will see me in the chat room that I will try to reply to everything that anyone sais so that they do not feel ignored, this ends up with me seemingly taking over in some way killing the natural flow of conversation, watch out for that LOL!
I also beat myself up allot and think that there is something wrong with me. I believe these feelings will stem from childhood and need to be resolved if we want to actually have any real measure of respect for ourselves and like a great man once said, if we do not respect ourselves, if we do not love our selves, if we do not like ourselves, WHO WILL?