02-02-2014, 12:00 AM
It's an interesting challenge you describe Littlepaw, thanks for sharing it with us.
As you know, ultimately you must make the decision as to what you choose to do. I'd suggest asking the following questions which might help you get a better feel for the challenge.
1. Why am I considering moving in with Natascha? What benefits do I see for myself from doing this? Why do I want those benefits? How will those things affect the way others see me? How will they affect the way I see myself?
2. If I already had those things which I want to get from moving in there, would I still want to do it? For example, if she lives in a mansion and being able to live in a mansion was one of the benefits of moving in with her then the question would be "If I already owned a mansion would I still want to move in with her?"
3. Do I have an exit plan or will I be trapped once I've moved in? What will I do if I don't like living there? Am I responsible enough myself to ensure I don't complicate things by impregnating her if that's not what I want to do? ( This is the kind of advice people will give women all the time. "What do you do to make sure you're okay if it later turns out the man can't be trusted?" It's considered terribly unacceptable for men to even suggest that women can't be trusted. Well, truth is a lot of women will lie about being on the pill and after getting pregnant will not value your rights as a father, will take as much financially from you for as they can, and will do so for as many years as their respective governments allow. They'll do this without hating you, or even being angry at you. They will be sweet and kind and caring and do this to you simply because they feel entitled to do so. Now, taking precautions for yourself doesn't mean you're saying that she would try to do this to you, it just means you're saying you value yourself enough not to make it possible for anyone to do it to you and there's nothing wrong with that. Of course, a lot of people should they read my warning to you about this would immediately see me as a villain. You'll be a villain in their eyes too if you truly look out for yourself rather than taking the risk of trusting a woman who may not always have your best interests in mind. But it's easier to accept being a villian in the eyes of the majority once you realize there's nothing respectable going on in the brains behind those eyes to classify you as such. )
4. Is this a path with heart? If so, where is my internal conflict coming from?
5. What do I want to become? What will I become if I follow this path?
6. What does it feel like power wants for me?
Good luck with this challenge Littlepaw, and I hope whatever you decide to do works out well for you.
As you know, ultimately you must make the decision as to what you choose to do. I'd suggest asking the following questions which might help you get a better feel for the challenge.
1. Why am I considering moving in with Natascha? What benefits do I see for myself from doing this? Why do I want those benefits? How will those things affect the way others see me? How will they affect the way I see myself?
2. If I already had those things which I want to get from moving in there, would I still want to do it? For example, if she lives in a mansion and being able to live in a mansion was one of the benefits of moving in with her then the question would be "If I already owned a mansion would I still want to move in with her?"
3. Do I have an exit plan or will I be trapped once I've moved in? What will I do if I don't like living there? Am I responsible enough myself to ensure I don't complicate things by impregnating her if that's not what I want to do? ( This is the kind of advice people will give women all the time. "What do you do to make sure you're okay if it later turns out the man can't be trusted?" It's considered terribly unacceptable for men to even suggest that women can't be trusted. Well, truth is a lot of women will lie about being on the pill and after getting pregnant will not value your rights as a father, will take as much financially from you for as they can, and will do so for as many years as their respective governments allow. They'll do this without hating you, or even being angry at you. They will be sweet and kind and caring and do this to you simply because they feel entitled to do so. Now, taking precautions for yourself doesn't mean you're saying that she would try to do this to you, it just means you're saying you value yourself enough not to make it possible for anyone to do it to you and there's nothing wrong with that. Of course, a lot of people should they read my warning to you about this would immediately see me as a villain. You'll be a villain in their eyes too if you truly look out for yourself rather than taking the risk of trusting a woman who may not always have your best interests in mind. But it's easier to accept being a villian in the eyes of the majority once you realize there's nothing respectable going on in the brains behind those eyes to classify you as such. )
4. Is this a path with heart? If so, where is my internal conflict coming from?
5. What do I want to become? What will I become if I follow this path?
6. What does it feel like power wants for me?
Good luck with this challenge Littlepaw, and I hope whatever you decide to do works out well for you.