08-30-2010, 12:00 AM
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But I say no matter how you feel, you never were, are or can be a victim or former victim. Its only a perceptual experience of such (so the potential to be completely free is available). Which I went through also BTW. And yes it helps us evolve in the relative sense. If you were to read some of my posts at PP (a few years back) you'd see very much a similar reply as yours here, that is, I was embracing my childhood "wounds" as powerful imprints that helped me become strong. That was how I viewed things then. You can see now my view has changed. I mention this because I feel its perhaps of value to you to know I am not just theorizing out of the sky.
And compassion is what I use as well, in fact some of my posts here are about it--Avalokiteshvara. To me compassion is the great equalizer. We can have compassion for those we perceived wounded us and this is the pinnacle of letting the wound go completely. And when we feel we made a terrible mistake, we can let compassion overwhelm us so "right and wrong" "good and bad" all washes away into the ocean of unconditional unity. The way I see it, compassion cannot be used to comfort wounds and such, but rather offer an alternative, which is a form of detachment--from self. Often detachment is seen as unfeeling, but here it can be selfless feeling, a force that compels positive actions.
And one has to go through hell and back (I think) to get to the place of no pity. When you have no pity, you can experience unyielding compassion in that moment. If you don't release your identity with wounds completely, you become a righteous crusader (for the wronged victims). Nothing wrong with that, but there's more for us, to be completely free. And by no means do I think it happens over night nor is it something you don't constantly have to work at. But from my own experience, shifts do happen suddenly, granted its probably initially due to years of effort (like that which you express here) that finally give way to a breakthrough. And once you see it happens suddenly, you know future expereinces can happen this way and you intend it so. That is, you prefer the swiftness and wait for it because you intended it.
And yes this is my perspective and that only which is from experience, and I realize you have yours as well.
But I say no matter how you feel, you never were, are or can be a victim or former victim. Its only a perceptual experience of such (so the potential to be completely free is available). Which I went through also BTW. And yes it helps us evolve in the relative sense. If you were to read some of my posts at PP (a few years back) you'd see very much a similar reply as yours here, that is, I was embracing my childhood "wounds" as powerful imprints that helped me become strong. That was how I viewed things then. You can see now my view has changed. I mention this because I feel its perhaps of value to you to know I am not just theorizing out of the sky.
And compassion is what I use as well, in fact some of my posts here are about it--Avalokiteshvara. To me compassion is the great equalizer. We can have compassion for those we perceived wounded us and this is the pinnacle of letting the wound go completely. And when we feel we made a terrible mistake, we can let compassion overwhelm us so "right and wrong" "good and bad" all washes away into the ocean of unconditional unity. The way I see it, compassion cannot be used to comfort wounds and such, but rather offer an alternative, which is a form of detachment--from self. Often detachment is seen as unfeeling, but here it can be selfless feeling, a force that compels positive actions.
And one has to go through hell and back (I think) to get to the place of no pity. When you have no pity, you can experience unyielding compassion in that moment. If you don't release your identity with wounds completely, you become a righteous crusader (for the wronged victims). Nothing wrong with that, but there's more for us, to be completely free. And by no means do I think it happens over night nor is it something you don't constantly have to work at. But from my own experience, shifts do happen suddenly, granted its probably initially due to years of effort (like that which you express here) that finally give way to a breakthrough. And once you see it happens suddenly, you know future expereinces can happen this way and you intend it so. That is, you prefer the swiftness and wait for it because you intended it.
And yes this is my perspective and that only which is from experience, and I realize you have yours as well.