12-14-2016, 12:00 AM
Relationship Cords
Cords can happen in any existence and they can do so in any situation where you relate in any way
at all to another being. They extend the full range from the extreme “I hate you and am going to get
you back you bastard” through to the “We will love each other forever” which is, contrary to
popular belief, equally harmful. These can be more subtle with acquaintances, not so subtle with
friends, and much stronger with lovers and enemies.
Cords to things and objects
Cars would be a good although trivial example for some people. A dangerous weapon. Beautiful gems.
Money, Power. What about your position as a teacher in a spiritual school. Houses are things that
people often get attached too. In energy terms you can find people carrying around ‘energetic
representations’ of things that they picked up a long time ago. Power objects, amulets, books of spells,
your best jewelry, anything that is just too good to leave behind. Or perhaps something entrusted to
you for you to look after and your still doing it 10 years later.
Cords to ideas and beliefs
They effect your views of your reality, yourself and others very deeply and they drive your behavior,
values, ethics and approaches to life, and relationships. They are the most difficult to become aware of,
and they are also the most important to understand. They hold your greatest limitations. Your values,
traditions, philosophies and ideas are taken on because they are a part of your culture. You are also
strongly influenced by those closest to you – your parents and extended family, your friends, your
teachers. This is where your beliefs originate about what is spiritual, what is good or bad, what is
ethical and unethical and so on.
There are two main types of potentially harmful Cords
The first are negative entities who choose to interact and disturb people because that’s what they
like doing. The second are from your own interactions and relationships within this OR other
existences and environments.
~Let’s will look at both of these types~
Cords from Negative Entities
In these cases there is no energetic tie, the beings that are present and interfering with someone are
doing so for personal reasons specific to themselves. So, you can have entities interfering with you
that you have no past or relationship history with. I’ll describe some of these types . . .
Bullies
Some people are bullies and enjoy making life difficult for others in a general sense. These people
or spirits tend to pick on particular others whom they sense have some weakness or insecurities.
So, some entity attacks or spirit type interference can be of beings of this type . . . if they see you
as an easy target. They learned this because of their own Cords.
Jealousy
There are instances where a being will interfere with you because it is jealous of the abilities,
qualities, or values of your position or standing. Quite often, he wanted to have the same or to
be recognized (but likely wasn’t). Often these types will work hard to sabotage others that had
what they didn’t?have themselves.
Dis-incarnate people problems
These are shells that for whatever reason have not moved on after the death of the human body.
Interference from these types are often because of something within you that they need. For
example you could visit a friends house where in the past someone died from grief caused by a
broken heart. This form was so preoccupied with its own suffering that it continues existing in
the same environment as a ghost form. If you are an anchor for this form, it may think you can
help it. Or you (having recently broken off a relationship with someone else) may find yourself
the target of this Being’s rage, anger and or injustice. This basic human level attachment usually
occurs because;
1-You have either the same or opposite issues as the attaching Being
2- You have an open or damaged energy field. Caused by trauma, emotional shock, drug or
alcohol abuse, depression, excessive negativity and so on. This makes you a weaker or easier
target for ‘negative’ beings wanting to mess with people.
These are common and usually this is more a nuisance than seriously debilitating although some
can be very difficult.
Third Party Cords
There are instances where a being will interfere with you because it has been contracted to
interfere or attack you by a third party that is wanting you to experience problems. These are
fairly common for some people and they are the most difficult to deal with because you have
to be experienced enough to identify this scenario and then rather than try and deal with the
attacking being get in touch with the being it has the contract with to sort out the problem.
Other Life Connections
An attachment occurs because you have had some connection with this being in your other lives.
It may be a friend, acquaintance, colleague, enemy, family member and so on. In this case they
may have strong feelings towards you, stopping them from letting go. These could be anger, love,
hate, injustice, jealousy and so on. Every time we fail to express ourselves properly and hold onto
resentment, sadness, anger, revenge, injustice, jealousy, love, loyalty, care and so on then we keep
these energy connections open. These (for most people) are the main problematic Cords.
Unfinished business
It could be that there is some agreement or unfinished business that maintains the attachment.
“I will always look after you”
“We will work together until this is finished”
“You asked me for help – I wont abandon you”
“I will get you back you bastard”
There are many variations here. In my experience many spirit guides are often people who you
know from some existence who agreed or promised or swore to look out for you.
Cords that Arise Because ‘Someone’ Treated ‘Someone’ Badly
1-You may treat someone very badly causing them to swear revenge. When these oaths are made
with strong intent they will continue until broken causing this cord to appear in multiple lives.
2-You may have been/ are married in another existence and this other may regard you as it’s sole
( exclusive) partner within that existence. It may be very possessive, it will even subconsciously
be trying to prevent you from relationships with others within other environments on other
energy levels including here (I’ve dealt with lots of these).
3-You may find yourself in an environment where you are under the control of others, a slave for
example. Where your life is based on fear of making a mistake, doing something wrong, being
caught doing things.
It makes no difference on which level Cords originate. We don’t just have existences here. We exist
as many different forms in many different environments. In each of these places you may make
enemies, swear agreements, make love Cords, hate Cords and so on. All the relationships (with
other beings) that we have within these places are a source of attachments. The stronger the
attachment is the more difficult it can be to deal with.
What indicates the Strength of these Cords we have connecting ourselves to others?
There are a number of factors. These relate to;
How strongly and how OFTEN you feel toward someone
How often and how STRONGLY you think about them or direct your attention toward them
How long we have this association . . .
So, the more feelings toward someone, the more we think about them, the longer the relationship
history we have with someone then the greater strength there will be. We ALL have lots of
energetic ties to others. It’s unlikely the average person will have cords to less than 500 others,
and in many cases a lot more.
Negative Energetic Bonds
It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that those that we are energetically tied to can range from good
to bad. A relationship that starts out as GOOD can become BAD over time. Unfortunately just
because a relationship or close association becomes BAD does not lessen the emotional ties that
built up between you. You have simply added more. A business relationship that starts out as
GOOD can become bad overnight if you find out that your partner has been stealing . . .
Cords originate from another person.
You may want to cut them in the following situations:
There is someone in your life that you no longer want in your life.
After the ending of a relationship when the ties may stop you from moving forward in your
life, or you just have difficulty letting go.
When you have had a major change in a relationship, and you want to change old patterns or
ways of interacting with someone.
In current relationships where you wish to maintain the relationship but feel there are unhealthy
aspects which need to be cut.
Anytime you are transitioning to a new stage or phase of your life and you feel there are things
you need to let go of.
An Exercise for Cutting Energetic and Emotional Cords
EFT and other energy techniques are excellent for this work.
For those that prefer to work alone, the following method is effective.
This is a tool that you can use to set the intention that you are no longer willing to lose your energy
in this way. It opens the door to letting go, and allows you to get rid of all the thoughts, beliefs, and
judgments, that are holding back or tainting a relationship which could develop into something
much more productive. Cords can also exist between you and material objects or possessions.
This exercise can be adapted for when you feel your attachment to an object is unhealthy or holding
you back in some way.
Preliminary Steps
If possible, take a break from that person before you perform this exercise. This allows greater
detachment and perception on your part. Become aware of the connection. Is the relationship based
on love, acceptance, and support or is it based on fear, security, need? Is the relationship contributing
to your greater good as well as the greater good of the other person? Have the lessons from this
relationship been learned and it is now time to move on?
It is important to have awareness of how these got formed in the first place.
What was your part in allowing the emotion and energy to develop between yourself and the other?
Before cutting take a moment to acknowledge the relationship.
If it is with a person you wish to remove from your life completely, think of how that relationship
positively influenced your life, any lessons you may have learned, and what you are
allowing into your life by cutting your connection with this person.
Steps for Cutting Ties
Relax. Get into a comfortable position, either sitting or laying down.
Close your eyes and relax by taking a few deep breaths.
Visualize as clearly as possible, the person with whom you wish to cut a cord.
See and feel the cord that exist between the two of you.
Take as much time as you need to be able to sense the connection that exists between you.
It is up to you how these cords look. Some people see ropes, chains, or electrical cords. These
may look like an umbilical cord, others use the visualization of a more subtle cord made of light.
There is no wrong way to visualize.
(Keep in mind, that these cords may look different as you cut ties with different people later on.
This is normal, the images symbolize the strength of your Cords, and you will see the level
of attachment in your visualizations. Some Cords may be like thin threads, where others could
be very thick and sturdy.)
Visualize cutting or severing these. There are many visualizations for cutting . Some envision
golden scissors snipping the ties or a white sword severing the ties, others may “unplug” the cord.
Be creative and use what works for you. Some may be more solid and will take stronger tools to
cut. Make sure you have visualized and felt that they were cut completely.
Completion
You may feel you need to take additional steps to feel this exercise is complete.
Use whatever gives you a sense that the cutting has been completed. You may find it helpful to
complete by visualizing a wall between the two, or alternatively, you can visualize the two of
you in an infinity sign or a figure 8, where each of you is in a separate circle. By then cutting
the figure 8 in the middle the circles are separated and you can visualize the other person in their
circle floating off in the distance.
Awareness and Healing
Take a few moments to relax after the exercise. Be aware of any effects
you may be feeling. After cutting it is important to send love. This will help heal any possible
“wounds” from the separation.
Ongoing Awareness
Be aware in your future interactions with that person. It is important to
establish healthy patterns of interacting with that person from now on otherwise you may fall
into the same negative patterns which you just cut.
Cords can happen in any existence and they can do so in any situation where you relate in any way
at all to another being. They extend the full range from the extreme “I hate you and am going to get
you back you bastard” through to the “We will love each other forever” which is, contrary to
popular belief, equally harmful. These can be more subtle with acquaintances, not so subtle with
friends, and much stronger with lovers and enemies.
Cords to things and objects
Cars would be a good although trivial example for some people. A dangerous weapon. Beautiful gems.
Money, Power. What about your position as a teacher in a spiritual school. Houses are things that
people often get attached too. In energy terms you can find people carrying around ‘energetic
representations’ of things that they picked up a long time ago. Power objects, amulets, books of spells,
your best jewelry, anything that is just too good to leave behind. Or perhaps something entrusted to
you for you to look after and your still doing it 10 years later.
Cords to ideas and beliefs
They effect your views of your reality, yourself and others very deeply and they drive your behavior,
values, ethics and approaches to life, and relationships. They are the most difficult to become aware of,
and they are also the most important to understand. They hold your greatest limitations. Your values,
traditions, philosophies and ideas are taken on because they are a part of your culture. You are also
strongly influenced by those closest to you – your parents and extended family, your friends, your
teachers. This is where your beliefs originate about what is spiritual, what is good or bad, what is
ethical and unethical and so on.
There are two main types of potentially harmful Cords
The first are negative entities who choose to interact and disturb people because that’s what they
like doing. The second are from your own interactions and relationships within this OR other
existences and environments.
~Let’s will look at both of these types~
Cords from Negative Entities
In these cases there is no energetic tie, the beings that are present and interfering with someone are
doing so for personal reasons specific to themselves. So, you can have entities interfering with you
that you have no past or relationship history with. I’ll describe some of these types . . .
Bullies
Some people are bullies and enjoy making life difficult for others in a general sense. These people
or spirits tend to pick on particular others whom they sense have some weakness or insecurities.
So, some entity attacks or spirit type interference can be of beings of this type . . . if they see you
as an easy target. They learned this because of their own Cords.
Jealousy
There are instances where a being will interfere with you because it is jealous of the abilities,
qualities, or values of your position or standing. Quite often, he wanted to have the same or to
be recognized (but likely wasn’t). Often these types will work hard to sabotage others that had
what they didn’t?have themselves.
Dis-incarnate people problems
These are shells that for whatever reason have not moved on after the death of the human body.
Interference from these types are often because of something within you that they need. For
example you could visit a friends house where in the past someone died from grief caused by a
broken heart. This form was so preoccupied with its own suffering that it continues existing in
the same environment as a ghost form. If you are an anchor for this form, it may think you can
help it. Or you (having recently broken off a relationship with someone else) may find yourself
the target of this Being’s rage, anger and or injustice. This basic human level attachment usually
occurs because;
1-You have either the same or opposite issues as the attaching Being
2- You have an open or damaged energy field. Caused by trauma, emotional shock, drug or
alcohol abuse, depression, excessive negativity and so on. This makes you a weaker or easier
target for ‘negative’ beings wanting to mess with people.
These are common and usually this is more a nuisance than seriously debilitating although some
can be very difficult.
Third Party Cords
There are instances where a being will interfere with you because it has been contracted to
interfere or attack you by a third party that is wanting you to experience problems. These are
fairly common for some people and they are the most difficult to deal with because you have
to be experienced enough to identify this scenario and then rather than try and deal with the
attacking being get in touch with the being it has the contract with to sort out the problem.
Other Life Connections
An attachment occurs because you have had some connection with this being in your other lives.
It may be a friend, acquaintance, colleague, enemy, family member and so on. In this case they
may have strong feelings towards you, stopping them from letting go. These could be anger, love,
hate, injustice, jealousy and so on. Every time we fail to express ourselves properly and hold onto
resentment, sadness, anger, revenge, injustice, jealousy, love, loyalty, care and so on then we keep
these energy connections open. These (for most people) are the main problematic Cords.
Unfinished business
It could be that there is some agreement or unfinished business that maintains the attachment.
“I will always look after you”
“We will work together until this is finished”
“You asked me for help – I wont abandon you”
“I will get you back you bastard”
There are many variations here. In my experience many spirit guides are often people who you
know from some existence who agreed or promised or swore to look out for you.
Cords that Arise Because ‘Someone’ Treated ‘Someone’ Badly
1-You may treat someone very badly causing them to swear revenge. When these oaths are made
with strong intent they will continue until broken causing this cord to appear in multiple lives.
2-You may have been/ are married in another existence and this other may regard you as it’s sole
( exclusive) partner within that existence. It may be very possessive, it will even subconsciously
be trying to prevent you from relationships with others within other environments on other
energy levels including here (I’ve dealt with lots of these).
3-You may find yourself in an environment where you are under the control of others, a slave for
example. Where your life is based on fear of making a mistake, doing something wrong, being
caught doing things.
It makes no difference on which level Cords originate. We don’t just have existences here. We exist
as many different forms in many different environments. In each of these places you may make
enemies, swear agreements, make love Cords, hate Cords and so on. All the relationships (with
other beings) that we have within these places are a source of attachments. The stronger the
attachment is the more difficult it can be to deal with.
What indicates the Strength of these Cords we have connecting ourselves to others?
There are a number of factors. These relate to;
How strongly and how OFTEN you feel toward someone
How often and how STRONGLY you think about them or direct your attention toward them
How long we have this association . . .
So, the more feelings toward someone, the more we think about them, the longer the relationship
history we have with someone then the greater strength there will be. We ALL have lots of
energetic ties to others. It’s unlikely the average person will have cords to less than 500 others,
and in many cases a lot more.
Negative Energetic Bonds
It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that those that we are energetically tied to can range from good
to bad. A relationship that starts out as GOOD can become BAD over time. Unfortunately just
because a relationship or close association becomes BAD does not lessen the emotional ties that
built up between you. You have simply added more. A business relationship that starts out as
GOOD can become bad overnight if you find out that your partner has been stealing . . .
Cords originate from another person.
You may want to cut them in the following situations:
There is someone in your life that you no longer want in your life.
After the ending of a relationship when the ties may stop you from moving forward in your
life, or you just have difficulty letting go.
When you have had a major change in a relationship, and you want to change old patterns or
ways of interacting with someone.
In current relationships where you wish to maintain the relationship but feel there are unhealthy
aspects which need to be cut.
Anytime you are transitioning to a new stage or phase of your life and you feel there are things
you need to let go of.
An Exercise for Cutting Energetic and Emotional Cords
EFT and other energy techniques are excellent for this work.
For those that prefer to work alone, the following method is effective.
This is a tool that you can use to set the intention that you are no longer willing to lose your energy
in this way. It opens the door to letting go, and allows you to get rid of all the thoughts, beliefs, and
judgments, that are holding back or tainting a relationship which could develop into something
much more productive. Cords can also exist between you and material objects or possessions.
This exercise can be adapted for when you feel your attachment to an object is unhealthy or holding
you back in some way.
Preliminary Steps
If possible, take a break from that person before you perform this exercise. This allows greater
detachment and perception on your part. Become aware of the connection. Is the relationship based
on love, acceptance, and support or is it based on fear, security, need? Is the relationship contributing
to your greater good as well as the greater good of the other person? Have the lessons from this
relationship been learned and it is now time to move on?
It is important to have awareness of how these got formed in the first place.
What was your part in allowing the emotion and energy to develop between yourself and the other?
Before cutting take a moment to acknowledge the relationship.
If it is with a person you wish to remove from your life completely, think of how that relationship
positively influenced your life, any lessons you may have learned, and what you are
allowing into your life by cutting your connection with this person.
Steps for Cutting Ties
Relax. Get into a comfortable position, either sitting or laying down.
Close your eyes and relax by taking a few deep breaths.
Visualize as clearly as possible, the person with whom you wish to cut a cord.
See and feel the cord that exist between the two of you.
Take as much time as you need to be able to sense the connection that exists between you.
It is up to you how these cords look. Some people see ropes, chains, or electrical cords. These
may look like an umbilical cord, others use the visualization of a more subtle cord made of light.
There is no wrong way to visualize.
(Keep in mind, that these cords may look different as you cut ties with different people later on.
This is normal, the images symbolize the strength of your Cords, and you will see the level
of attachment in your visualizations. Some Cords may be like thin threads, where others could
be very thick and sturdy.)
Visualize cutting or severing these. There are many visualizations for cutting . Some envision
golden scissors snipping the ties or a white sword severing the ties, others may “unplug” the cord.
Be creative and use what works for you. Some may be more solid and will take stronger tools to
cut. Make sure you have visualized and felt that they were cut completely.
Completion
You may feel you need to take additional steps to feel this exercise is complete.
Use whatever gives you a sense that the cutting has been completed. You may find it helpful to
complete by visualizing a wall between the two, or alternatively, you can visualize the two of
you in an infinity sign or a figure 8, where each of you is in a separate circle. By then cutting
the figure 8 in the middle the circles are separated and you can visualize the other person in their
circle floating off in the distance.
Awareness and Healing
Take a few moments to relax after the exercise. Be aware of any effects
you may be feeling. After cutting it is important to send love. This will help heal any possible
“wounds” from the separation.
Ongoing Awareness
Be aware in your future interactions with that person. It is important to
establish healthy patterns of interacting with that person from now on otherwise you may fall
into the same negative patterns which you just cut.