02-16-2014, 12:00 AM
Actions have consequences and eventually one might ask themselves what they're building within their lives.
The people around you, your closest most intimate relationships will reveal what you're building or perhaps destroying. If we're destroying people we're pushing them to their knees, forcing them to grovel for our attention in an insecure way. We neglect their strengths and skills and instead mold them into what we think they should be.
On the other hand if we work with others natural skills and help support them without molding them into our image, but into their own, that is building them.
Which method is more effective? Depends on who you ask. Personally I find the better results are yielded from those we don't attempt to mold. We cannot control those around us, we can only control ourselves. We can attempt to manipulate other people but those have limitations. Yet when we are masters of the self, nothing is a limitation.
It is the inexperienced who try to control others. The inexperienced who force others under them. The inexperienced who destroys others.
Actions show experience. If we are building people, fantastic. If we are destroying them, it's a good idea to sleep with one eye open.
The people around you, your closest most intimate relationships will reveal what you're building or perhaps destroying. If we're destroying people we're pushing them to their knees, forcing them to grovel for our attention in an insecure way. We neglect their strengths and skills and instead mold them into what we think they should be.
On the other hand if we work with others natural skills and help support them without molding them into our image, but into their own, that is building them.
Which method is more effective? Depends on who you ask. Personally I find the better results are yielded from those we don't attempt to mold. We cannot control those around us, we can only control ourselves. We can attempt to manipulate other people but those have limitations. Yet when we are masters of the self, nothing is a limitation.
It is the inexperienced who try to control others. The inexperienced who force others under them. The inexperienced who destroys others.
Actions show experience. If we are building people, fantastic. If we are destroying them, it's a good idea to sleep with one eye open.