12-29-2010, 12:00 AM
Spending SO much time here on the forums and in chat over the holidays got me thinking about its significance to me. All my spare time practically is spent hanging out with you guys. You are pretty addictive! To have a room
full of friends that are so witty and fun, and who have me laughing my head off, and who can also be so deep and serious too. What a great combination. My 'time out' time, which most people spend watching TV or playing
computer games, is spent in a much more engaging educational, and fun way.
I see changes happening as a result of our new ability to connect with a large
amount of people via the internet. I wonder what effect it will have on
monogamous marriages and relationships!
People are now discovering that
they can be really really close to more than one person via the internet, people who share their ideas and thoughts,
aspirations....and sometimes they become closer to some of those they meet on the
internet than their spouse at home. This can cause people to take a fresh look at their existing relationships.
I remember how my exhusband felt like a practical stranger in my house compared to the closeness I experienced with friends on the internet. It was partly that deeper relating that enabled me to get in touch with a more authentic level of being and relating and move on from that relationship which did not serve my need for deeper intimacy. I realised there was more...and I am very glad to be free of that relationship now. Thankfully there were no joint ties of children so it was relatively uncomplicated.
Maybe this experience of deeper sharing we can experience on the net can have a positive effect on our relationships in 'real' life? Perhaps people are using it to forge new levels of depth and sharing of communication with those around them at home?
It is easier to be close to people on the net. With lack of eye
contact, body language etc. we can transcend social conditioning easier,
and any fears or shyness about being close to others falls away, there
is less self consciousness, we can forget we are in bodies! and
communicate spirit to spirit. The physical attraction element doesn't
interfere as much. That is powerful stuff. People everywhere are becoming
closer. I wonder how this is changing our world.
I dont mean to just focus on relationships with partners here, I am including friendships in general. I have noticed for me that I experience how limited some of those friendships are in comparison to being able to communicate from ALL of me to ALL of another as we sometimes do here. I feel more integrated.
Finding you people here has helped to sort out those remaining parts of me that were 'sitting on the fence' as a result of attempting to keep a foot in both worlds in a feeble attempt to belong in society.
We were discussing recently on chat that here we find people we dont normally encounter in day to day life, we find others who have at the very least some interest in the larger spiritual context of our lives, and at best a real committment to the Path. That is so exciting!
full of friends that are so witty and fun, and who have me laughing my head off, and who can also be so deep and serious too. What a great combination. My 'time out' time, which most people spend watching TV or playing
computer games, is spent in a much more engaging educational, and fun way.
I see changes happening as a result of our new ability to connect with a large
amount of people via the internet. I wonder what effect it will have on
monogamous marriages and relationships!
People are now discovering that
they can be really really close to more than one person via the internet, people who share their ideas and thoughts,
aspirations....and sometimes they become closer to some of those they meet on the
internet than their spouse at home. This can cause people to take a fresh look at their existing relationships.
I remember how my exhusband felt like a practical stranger in my house compared to the closeness I experienced with friends on the internet. It was partly that deeper relating that enabled me to get in touch with a more authentic level of being and relating and move on from that relationship which did not serve my need for deeper intimacy. I realised there was more...and I am very glad to be free of that relationship now. Thankfully there were no joint ties of children so it was relatively uncomplicated.
Maybe this experience of deeper sharing we can experience on the net can have a positive effect on our relationships in 'real' life? Perhaps people are using it to forge new levels of depth and sharing of communication with those around them at home?
It is easier to be close to people on the net. With lack of eye
contact, body language etc. we can transcend social conditioning easier,
and any fears or shyness about being close to others falls away, there
is less self consciousness, we can forget we are in bodies! and
communicate spirit to spirit. The physical attraction element doesn't
interfere as much. That is powerful stuff. People everywhere are becoming
closer. I wonder how this is changing our world.
I dont mean to just focus on relationships with partners here, I am including friendships in general. I have noticed for me that I experience how limited some of those friendships are in comparison to being able to communicate from ALL of me to ALL of another as we sometimes do here. I feel more integrated.
Finding you people here has helped to sort out those remaining parts of me that were 'sitting on the fence' as a result of attempting to keep a foot in both worlds in a feeble attempt to belong in society.
We were discussing recently on chat that here we find people we dont normally encounter in day to day life, we find others who have at the very least some interest in the larger spiritual context of our lives, and at best a real committment to the Path. That is so exciting!