11-12-2010, 12:00 AM
Using the voice is another way of using vibration medicine, Our own rhythm, timing, pace, tone and pitch can all effect ourselves and others.I thought, I would post this set of tools, to use for effective interaction.
Owning what you emanate, is part of self mastery
In any situation, notice the 5 R's
RECEIVE- What stimulus are you receiving?
REVIEW- Which aspect of yourself is being prompted?
RE-SOURCE- Go back to neutral, detach and choose aspect you wish to present ( what positively do you wish to achieve from this interaction)?
RESPOND- Communicate as an equal, as you would speak to yourself in the mirror, heart space to heart space, From the I-space (see following note)
RAPPORT- Maintain and affirm connection and value, by asking for response to consciously chosen aspect.
GIVE YOURSELF TIME, to detach from 'reaction' mode.
Use responses like:
" Let me think about it...."
"Can i get back to you...."
or
" i don't know yet, can i get back to you?"
" When do i have to let you know by?"
NON COMMITTAL ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
A good "ummmmm" or "uh-huh" is great for acknowledging that you are listening to another person, but gives you time before you commit a response, decision or opinion.
THE I SPACE
People project themselves onto others by blaming etc.
Practice coming from the I Space, Owning yourself.
" I feel as though i am not communicating clearly enough to you..."
rather than " you are not listening to me"
or
" I know you are busy, do you think you could help me?"
rather than " leave that, i need you to do this..."
POSITIVE INTERACTIVE WORDS about yourself
'feel','am', 'know',' like', 'see', 'love''choose' and 'can'
are more effective than
'but',' need', 'want', 'have to', and 'should'
even
"you could have..."
is better than
" you should have..."
IF YOU DON'T AGREE
"I could, although i would rather..."
"I would prefer it if...."
"I can hear what you are saying, although i have another opinion..."
" I feel, this requires another solution.."
ASK FOR RAPPORT AND FEEDBACK
" Would you like to hear how I feel about it?"
"How can i change that?"
" What would you like me to do?..."
" What can i do?"
" Are you OK with that?"
" Was that clear?"
GIVE VALUE TO ALL INTERACTIONS
" Thanks for your opinion"
"I'm glad we talked about this"
" I appreciate your honesty"
MORE EXAMPLES
" I feel I am being ignored....i am sure that is not what you meant...did you hear what i said?"
"I am sorry...I don't understand....please could you explain that again/"
" I am really busy just now....i would like to hear what you have to say, Can i see you again in a few minutes, when i can give you my full attention?"
"I know you must have your reasons for speaking to me like this.....but i would prefer it if you spoke to me differently,....now, what exactly is the problem...and how can I help?
Owning what you emanate, is part of self mastery
In any situation, notice the 5 R's
RECEIVE- What stimulus are you receiving?
REVIEW- Which aspect of yourself is being prompted?
RE-SOURCE- Go back to neutral, detach and choose aspect you wish to present ( what positively do you wish to achieve from this interaction)?
RESPOND- Communicate as an equal, as you would speak to yourself in the mirror, heart space to heart space, From the I-space (see following note)
RAPPORT- Maintain and affirm connection and value, by asking for response to consciously chosen aspect.
GIVE YOURSELF TIME, to detach from 'reaction' mode.
Use responses like:
" Let me think about it...."
"Can i get back to you...."
or
" i don't know yet, can i get back to you?"
" When do i have to let you know by?"
NON COMMITTAL ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
A good "ummmmm" or "uh-huh" is great for acknowledging that you are listening to another person, but gives you time before you commit a response, decision or opinion.
THE I SPACE
People project themselves onto others by blaming etc.
Practice coming from the I Space, Owning yourself.
" I feel as though i am not communicating clearly enough to you..."
rather than " you are not listening to me"
or
" I know you are busy, do you think you could help me?"
rather than " leave that, i need you to do this..."
POSITIVE INTERACTIVE WORDS about yourself
'feel','am', 'know',' like', 'see', 'love''choose' and 'can'
are more effective than
'but',' need', 'want', 'have to', and 'should'
even
"you could have..."
is better than
" you should have..."
IF YOU DON'T AGREE
"I could, although i would rather..."
"I would prefer it if...."
"I can hear what you are saying, although i have another opinion..."
" I feel, this requires another solution.."
ASK FOR RAPPORT AND FEEDBACK
" Would you like to hear how I feel about it?"
"How can i change that?"
" What would you like me to do?..."
" What can i do?"
" Are you OK with that?"
" Was that clear?"
GIVE VALUE TO ALL INTERACTIONS
" Thanks for your opinion"
"I'm glad we talked about this"
" I appreciate your honesty"
MORE EXAMPLES
" I feel I am being ignored....i am sure that is not what you meant...did you hear what i said?"
"I am sorry...I don't understand....please could you explain that again/"
" I am really busy just now....i would like to hear what you have to say, Can i see you again in a few minutes, when i can give you my full attention?"
"I know you must have your reasons for speaking to me like this.....but i would prefer it if you spoke to me differently,....now, what exactly is the problem...and how can I help?