09-10-2015, 12:02 AM
My life is not materially different than yours. Think that I have what you experience in terms of 'problems' and occasional celebratory matters, and so on. Here is ONE critical difference.
Think of life in a room having a party (upside), in which the nasty gorilla (downside) is in his cage. The gorilla is a threat to you though he is not out of the cage.. you are reminded that he does emerge sometimes unexpectedly. There is some fear involved when he rattles the cage, and 'what if' reflection occurs, and there is no complete settlement in your mind because the gorilla needs to be gone.
But that gorilla is in my life too. Yet, I enjoy the party (upside) more, because the gorilla's presence is complimentary now. When he gets out (as he does), I relate to that. There is no loss of energy, as I have learned to fully embrace the gorilla when out of the cage.
The textures of the upside and downside are so much different than in the past; the speediness is gone; I have enough space that I can dance with the gorilla and allow it's part, and be a friend.
This is not hyperbole. You need to quit defining how life is supposed to be, and for Christ's sake, know you can be friends with the gorilla.
One generation after another is unhappy.. incorporating a false notion of leaving that prospect for 'their' kids (which never happens). YOU be the one that is finally happy.
Think of life in a room having a party (upside), in which the nasty gorilla (downside) is in his cage. The gorilla is a threat to you though he is not out of the cage.. you are reminded that he does emerge sometimes unexpectedly. There is some fear involved when he rattles the cage, and 'what if' reflection occurs, and there is no complete settlement in your mind because the gorilla needs to be gone.
But that gorilla is in my life too. Yet, I enjoy the party (upside) more, because the gorilla's presence is complimentary now. When he gets out (as he does), I relate to that. There is no loss of energy, as I have learned to fully embrace the gorilla when out of the cage.
The textures of the upside and downside are so much different than in the past; the speediness is gone; I have enough space that I can dance with the gorilla and allow it's part, and be a friend.
This is not hyperbole. You need to quit defining how life is supposed to be, and for Christ's sake, know you can be friends with the gorilla.
One generation after another is unhappy.. incorporating a false notion of leaving that prospect for 'their' kids (which never happens). YOU be the one that is finally happy.