08-20-2014, 12:00 AM
By the way, obviously pride and shame are evolutionalrily rooted in sex, and the balance of shame practice with and without masturbation is changeable from day to day and week to week. I will tell you again the chemicals of shame in sex bringing oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, neurotransmitters, adrenalin etc. really take you out of the overly-conscious element of particulars (Yet, amazingly shame keeps you in a high state of awareness overall.) Particulars are what you 'get rid of ' in mindfulness practices. This blows the doors off of sitting cross-legged watching breathe.
It is very addictive, once you know how to generate enough shame to release body chemicals. THIS is a good addiction. (As I said shame is a very trustworthy friend.) Of course you will be obliged to go further in the practice of abasement to get results, AND this is good. Do you trust yourself to meet yourself in a dark lonely place, where even your soul is condemned? YES, YOU CAN TRUST YOURSELF! Further, SHAME does the work for you once past a certain point. I think a realistic time frame to get a sense of something seriously happening is a few weeks. I mean you have movement and momentum that is of its own (without extraordinary will.) I'll say again, the effects are really TASTY. (I'm laughing because if nothing else, you will learn to masturbate to orgasms you never thought possible.)
Still, while the sexual component is great {and needs not to be restricted in any way---it (the obsession) settles}, you want to keep the key element or experience that drives your shame as a baseline reminder in day to day living. This reminder connected to those turn-ons creates a bodily feel (presence) that YOU WANT (It is a very empowering sexual feel too). You want this feel to 'train' you lay low. I mentioned I don't practice this anymore because it just IS for me. What I mean is you start to understand that a sense of your own withdrawal as a way of being brings the world to you with space inbetween whenever there is interaction. This is obviously advantageous and ultimately attractive to those around you.
No, you won't become a pansy.
It is very addictive, once you know how to generate enough shame to release body chemicals. THIS is a good addiction. (As I said shame is a very trustworthy friend.) Of course you will be obliged to go further in the practice of abasement to get results, AND this is good. Do you trust yourself to meet yourself in a dark lonely place, where even your soul is condemned? YES, YOU CAN TRUST YOURSELF! Further, SHAME does the work for you once past a certain point. I think a realistic time frame to get a sense of something seriously happening is a few weeks. I mean you have movement and momentum that is of its own (without extraordinary will.) I'll say again, the effects are really TASTY. (I'm laughing because if nothing else, you will learn to masturbate to orgasms you never thought possible.)
Still, while the sexual component is great {and needs not to be restricted in any way---it (the obsession) settles}, you want to keep the key element or experience that drives your shame as a baseline reminder in day to day living. This reminder connected to those turn-ons creates a bodily feel (presence) that YOU WANT (It is a very empowering sexual feel too). You want this feel to 'train' you lay low. I mentioned I don't practice this anymore because it just IS for me. What I mean is you start to understand that a sense of your own withdrawal as a way of being brings the world to you with space inbetween whenever there is interaction. This is obviously advantageous and ultimately attractive to those around you.
No, you won't become a pansy.