04-29-2005, 12:00 AM
Let me see if I can clarify what I meant. At some point being admired may have been okay, no friction, somewhat flattering. Then the groupies went beyond your personal boundaries and you drew the line, put up shields, got them out of your sphere -- was that asocial?
Setting boundaries for the energy vampires in our lives is a necessity. I turn the ringer off on my phone when I don't feel like being bothered and I don't feel bad about it. Nobody truly needs me, they only believe they do. Certainly, they have their own devices, their own power, and can find their own way. Becoming invisible to them -- there for them in spirit, supportive in intent -- is preferable to being their crutch.
Fluidity is about adjusting and adapting. If an old agitant comes around refuse to engage them. You have a choice. Walking away is one and often the best one. That's not asocial, that's reality selection, your right and duty as a creator goddess. Perhaps these people, former adversaries really, appear to you again to remind you that you have this choice and in it lies your power.
Everyone is a reflection of yourself. When you see someone unpleasant ask yourself if you are like them in any way. This can be enlightening. I read that the people who upset us the most are our best teachers. This one friend of mine used to drive me nuts until I asked myself, "do other people see me like I see him?" A resounding YES came back and it was a turning point, showing me what I hadn't been willing to accept. It was painful and humbling but ultimately beneficial. Now, lesson learned, he is out of my life.
You thought these folks were long gone but now they're back, irritating you. Do they represent, possibly, what you'd like to disown in yourself but must accept? Can you embrace it instead, in its positive aspect, and learn to get along with it, to use it to your advantage?
Setting boundaries for the energy vampires in our lives is a necessity. I turn the ringer off on my phone when I don't feel like being bothered and I don't feel bad about it. Nobody truly needs me, they only believe they do. Certainly, they have their own devices, their own power, and can find their own way. Becoming invisible to them -- there for them in spirit, supportive in intent -- is preferable to being their crutch.
Fluidity is about adjusting and adapting. If an old agitant comes around refuse to engage them. You have a choice. Walking away is one and often the best one. That's not asocial, that's reality selection, your right and duty as a creator goddess. Perhaps these people, former adversaries really, appear to you again to remind you that you have this choice and in it lies your power.
Everyone is a reflection of yourself. When you see someone unpleasant ask yourself if you are like them in any way. This can be enlightening. I read that the people who upset us the most are our best teachers. This one friend of mine used to drive me nuts until I asked myself, "do other people see me like I see him?" A resounding YES came back and it was a turning point, showing me what I hadn't been willing to accept. It was painful and humbling but ultimately beneficial. Now, lesson learned, he is out of my life.
You thought these folks were long gone but now they're back, irritating you. Do they represent, possibly, what you'd like to disown in yourself but must accept? Can you embrace it instead, in its positive aspect, and learn to get along with it, to use it to your advantage?