01-12-2018, 12:00 AM
yep, we do not live in a clear-cut universe of if somebody does X then another person will do Y 
. But there are tendencies and you were pointing out certain tendencies or developments/bends that happen to people who are abused and have bad experiences and such. I hope my answer was to the point there.
And you know, I have seen in others and experienced myself the pain of human kindness and love. It is the strangest thing that something that is so good can create such pain in broken beings (beings with certain types of bends). That is how people who run from pain might find themselves at a really bad bad place. But of course, it is rare that this would happen to someone who had no previous painful experiences (though all in all such a person who did not experience anything painful in their life might not even exist)... so, yes, certain things really create bad disadvantages when an instinct that seems healthy at first glance (to avoid pain) leads to further unhealthy states. Hence it is really crucial to have the necessary awareness or healthy self-preservation... to accompany such and increasing people's knowledge about things would be helpful.
. But there are tendencies and you were pointing out certain tendencies or developments/bends that happen to people who are abused and have bad experiences and such. I hope my answer was to the point there.And you know, I have seen in others and experienced myself the pain of human kindness and love. It is the strangest thing that something that is so good can create such pain in broken beings (beings with certain types of bends). That is how people who run from pain might find themselves at a really bad bad place. But of course, it is rare that this would happen to someone who had no previous painful experiences (though all in all such a person who did not experience anything painful in their life might not even exist)... so, yes, certain things really create bad disadvantages when an instinct that seems healthy at first glance (to avoid pain) leads to further unhealthy states. Hence it is really crucial to have the necessary awareness or healthy self-preservation... to accompany such and increasing people's knowledge about things would be helpful.