11-14-2017, 12:00 AM
watergaze wrote:
when I think of the term 'enabler' then it becomes a bit obscured because anyone who goes along with something is an enabler. If a bystander does not intervene in something that is happening their inaction is enabling the thing to happen. In this sense, a person who is not an enabler of an unhealthy society has to act in a way that they try to better the society. In doing so, one must inadvertently be at odds with a part of this society - the part that is not healthy. And then the question is: can someone who is well adjusted to a society be at odds with it?
My favorite question you pose is: can someone who is well adjusted to a society be at odds with it?
That sounds like a syzygy. It seems possible, but an outcome that requires a high level of skill to be successfully achieved. Unconditional love for individuals or a society can get a person to that state. Teachers and other leaders are often caught in this situation. They love the people while recognizing there's progress that should be made. It's loving the people but wanting to improve the system to better benefit the people. It's an impersonal AP to attain.
Imagine having a class full of as*hole students. They aren't "bad" people but they make bad choices frequently. Many may be from low-income families, living with grandparents because the parents made awful life choices, or maybe they're from abusive backgrounds. Perhaps the students are further put at a disadvantage because they haven't learned the foundations necessary to read (phonetic skills that are non-existent). It's frequent to see students slip through the cracks in public education. A teacher receiving such a mess of a class would be facing a lot of frustration from the students. It's frustrating for students who are asked to function at a level that is much higher than where they're capable of performing. For people struggling with their emotions, adding that sort of expectation is not going to help the situation.
It is important to accept where students are at (to remain realistic) but to also formulate a goal of how to bridge where they're at to where they should be. Progress, any amount, is a good direction. That's where the unconditional aspect comes into play. Love who they are at a basic level of being a member of humanity, but also fight for them. Fight the system that is working against them by educating them and helping them to self-advocate and acquire the knowledge they'll need to survive in life. Teach them that they are capable of achieving whatever they want to set out to do and give them the tools to make them successful. Teach them how to be critical thinkers, problem solvers, and to be independent. Love them enough to have authentic conversations with them and show them how to value themselves.
We're all in the same sh*tshow. We can behave like black crabs, every man for himself, and no one gets out. Or. We can build leaders to tip the entire bucket onto its side. It is the responsibility of every healer to help those who are at the bottom of the bucket get out. Some aren't strong enough yet, but if we build enough warriors, we can show what strength means.
Some are built for this sort of thing. Others less so. Often, the warriors pave the way for those who hold a different form of knowledge. It's our duty to protect one another when the opportunity presents itself. No man is an island. We need one another. So yeah, I think we can be well adjusted and at odds with a society. It's the same thing as loving someone on a soul level, but being annoyed with the tonal self.
when I think of the term 'enabler' then it becomes a bit obscured because anyone who goes along with something is an enabler. If a bystander does not intervene in something that is happening their inaction is enabling the thing to happen. In this sense, a person who is not an enabler of an unhealthy society has to act in a way that they try to better the society. In doing so, one must inadvertently be at odds with a part of this society - the part that is not healthy. And then the question is: can someone who is well adjusted to a society be at odds with it?
My favorite question you pose is: can someone who is well adjusted to a society be at odds with it?
That sounds like a syzygy. It seems possible, but an outcome that requires a high level of skill to be successfully achieved. Unconditional love for individuals or a society can get a person to that state. Teachers and other leaders are often caught in this situation. They love the people while recognizing there's progress that should be made. It's loving the people but wanting to improve the system to better benefit the people. It's an impersonal AP to attain.
Imagine having a class full of as*hole students. They aren't "bad" people but they make bad choices frequently. Many may be from low-income families, living with grandparents because the parents made awful life choices, or maybe they're from abusive backgrounds. Perhaps the students are further put at a disadvantage because they haven't learned the foundations necessary to read (phonetic skills that are non-existent). It's frequent to see students slip through the cracks in public education. A teacher receiving such a mess of a class would be facing a lot of frustration from the students. It's frustrating for students who are asked to function at a level that is much higher than where they're capable of performing. For people struggling with their emotions, adding that sort of expectation is not going to help the situation.
It is important to accept where students are at (to remain realistic) but to also formulate a goal of how to bridge where they're at to where they should be. Progress, any amount, is a good direction. That's where the unconditional aspect comes into play. Love who they are at a basic level of being a member of humanity, but also fight for them. Fight the system that is working against them by educating them and helping them to self-advocate and acquire the knowledge they'll need to survive in life. Teach them that they are capable of achieving whatever they want to set out to do and give them the tools to make them successful. Teach them how to be critical thinkers, problem solvers, and to be independent. Love them enough to have authentic conversations with them and show them how to value themselves.
We're all in the same sh*tshow. We can behave like black crabs, every man for himself, and no one gets out. Or. We can build leaders to tip the entire bucket onto its side. It is the responsibility of every healer to help those who are at the bottom of the bucket get out. Some aren't strong enough yet, but if we build enough warriors, we can show what strength means.
Some are built for this sort of thing. Others less so. Often, the warriors pave the way for those who hold a different form of knowledge. It's our duty to protect one another when the opportunity presents itself. No man is an island. We need one another. So yeah, I think we can be well adjusted and at odds with a society. It's the same thing as loving someone on a soul level, but being annoyed with the tonal self.