01-27-2015, 12:00 AM
Gugeyewalker wrote:There is also a relationship between ruthlessness and your ability to get what you want without shame or fear.
If there is an essence of desire - something our intent and will can lock onto, then you need ruthlessness to do it without caring what other people want from you - if you care then its likely self-serving or about self-image.
I confused you ansd S. even perhaps using the words "to be alive in communion rules". That can be described as the 'feel' in my example. But I should have emphasized as I DO NOW--the ruthlessness involved.
I mean the other person in my exampe may cry, lash out, have many mixed emotions. I am not to be a soft cushion or a sounding board. OH NO! I hold a sober, cold position to bring my self-control to bear. Yes the other person will have no outs and may become joyfull that you take responsibility, but that is an irrelevant consequence. These are the opportunities to shape and firm up your own power.
What do think S. (wink) Gug's last point was so very true, especially insightful about caring what other people want being a matter of serving one's self-image, which is not a good thing (unless as intended within the full context of one's pretense, heh?)
If there is an essence of desire - something our intent and will can lock onto, then you need ruthlessness to do it without caring what other people want from you - if you care then its likely self-serving or about self-image.
I confused you ansd S. even perhaps using the words "to be alive in communion rules". That can be described as the 'feel' in my example. But I should have emphasized as I DO NOW--the ruthlessness involved.
I mean the other person in my exampe may cry, lash out, have many mixed emotions. I am not to be a soft cushion or a sounding board. OH NO! I hold a sober, cold position to bring my self-control to bear. Yes the other person will have no outs and may become joyfull that you take responsibility, but that is an irrelevant consequence. These are the opportunities to shape and firm up your own power.
What do think S. (wink) Gug's last point was so very true, especially insightful about caring what other people want being a matter of serving one's self-image, which is not a good thing (unless as intended within the full context of one's pretense, heh?)